Reality of Life

Life is full of hurdles and ups and downs, that we can't even imagine. There is a huge difference between what we expect from life and what we really get. Let's understand a little more about life.

The Expected Unexpectations.

Being a person with the mentality of putting down efforts without much thinking about the results, I believe in not expecting anything from anyone. The only person to be blamed for my all profits, as well as my losses, is me. If I'm the one, who's responsible for my every cause so, what's the fun of expectations? Also, there's a huge difference between expectations and reality so instead of expecting anything, start relishing reality. 

Reality is something, you can't run away from. You have to face it one day or the other. Life isn't poetry or some illusion. You're not living in a delusional world where living in some kind of dream will solve your problems. You have to face your problems, you have to look for solutions and you have to choose the one that is best for you. The blame game or the victim card doesn't gonna work all the time. You have to hold the responsiblity for all your efforts and performances. 

Is life favorable?

Not always, life is favorable only if you take the authority and power into your own hands, otherwise, only others gonna dominate you. Whether money or status, a man can be easily dominated if he is not able to control his emotions. These so-called emotions are one way or the other responsible for making your life favorable and unfavorable as well. 

Time and misfortune.

We usually relate our time and misfortune. ''Bro, we both started together but today he is earning six figures and I'm still at the four-figure salary. He is settled in the States and I'm still rubbing my ass off in this small company''. 

This whole thought process is just giving rise to envy and rage inside you. Being in the situation I mentioned above, there may occur two different situations based on your perspectives. One is either you relate this whole thing to your misfortune and start taking life as it comes, without leaving any chance to curse your life. The other case is you start working harder so that you'd also be able to reach the heights as your so-called friend is. 

Most of us will agree with the second case of working hard instead of cursing life but I have another perspective and that is the way of perceiving the whole situation. You can work hard, instead, you should work hard to achieve those heights but not while looking at your friend or because he is in such a state, you also wanted to be at the same. You work on your own without considering others and without even worrying about the figures. Trust me, perseverance and hard work, these two weapons that can dominate anything in this world.

Either prove or leave!

If you are supporting something and you literally have no logical validations or some experimental and logical data to prove the same, then trust me, no one will give a damn. To prove yourself, you need to prove the thing based on logic and proper validations otherwise, don't expect the results. This is the reality. In this world, no one trusts you until you validate and that's the reality you need to accept. Start accepting this and act wisely.

People will come and criticize you for a number of things for shitty reasons that have no validation in life. Your only job of you is to ignore such shit and keep on doing the same. 

Deception and guilt for the past.

Life is full of experiences. We learn numerous things every day. We literally keep on learning our whole life, so, there is no big deal if you did something wrong or committed some mistake. The majority of us, once or more are cheated or gone through problems like breakups, etc. These things are normal and they don't deserve your precious time. These all situations are like different chapters of a book. You can't ignore all chapters while focussing on that one chapter. Try to forget the mistakes and act immediately for new beginnings.

Act of Delaying.

The only thing that resists us from achieving anything in our life is our procrastination. We are so much dominated by our laziness that we keep on delaying everything, even after knowing that this gonna hurt us in the future. I know, we all have this tendency, and it's basic human nature. You need not worry but you need to overcome this procrastination. Our procrastination is our biggest enemy so hustle hard and avoid procrastination.

''WISHING YOU A VERY HAPPY NEW YEAR 2K21''

Peace!

Subconscious mind || My perspectives.

 Humans tend to react, no matter what the situation is, we all react. We respond to everything and our subconscious use it to react indicating its impact and control over our consciousness and our body.

 We can try to act in a way consciously but we can't override our subconscious. Every sudden and spontaneous action that takes place initiates and is completely controlled at our subconscious level. We can try to control and regulate the consciousness but the conscious mind is completely dependent upon the subconscious mind so, whether we desire it or not, we can't deny the fact that we all are completely under the dominance of our internal mind i.e subconscious one. 

Different psychologists have different opinions and different perspectives with respect to the subconscious mind. Some consider it the major tool for the solutions to all problems and some consider it the major source of our existence. Some believe that it is responsible for our normal health and some believe our diseased state is also influenced by our subconscious mind. 

While going through an article, I come to know about the training of the human mind and the way our mind or our subconscious brain act. Though I don't agree with all the ideas about the subconscious mind, instead, I found a ray of optimism and hope in it. 

The subconscious mind, no doubt is the boss of our whole system. Our thoughts, perspectives, and the way we consider situations highly influence our subconscious activities. We all are under the complete influence of our subconscious mind. According to some sources, the subconscious mind has the power to cure the disease, can make you a millionaire, can lead you towards prosperity, etc. 

Now, I am not a product with some nihilistic approach but I am not completely satisfied with this whole perspective of psychologists with respect to the subconscious. I do believe that subconscious has powers but blaming and completely depending upon the subconscious can be too dangerous as well. 

It's good to train your mind with positivity and optimism but believing that everything can be achieved just by praying or by the activity of the subconscious, maybe an absurdity. 

Healing is a biological phenomenon. There may occur some errors because of some pathological disturbances. Now if a body isn't healing that doesn't mean his subconscious is not letting the mechanism take place. Similarly, if a man would be praying day and night to be successful without literally working for it, then would the subconscious be enough to fulfill the same? Well, I don't think so. 

Maybe some of the unexpected results can be seen but that doesn't mean it's only the subconscious that is responsible. Other biological, physiological, and psychological phenomena are also taking place simultaneously and the results are attained by the combined efforts of everything. 

Do believe in subconsciousness, but making this ideology, blind faith is just an absurdity.

The subconscious mind is there and I'm not denying the fact of the powers and the miracles it can do but that doesn't mean you get completely dependent on the subconscious mind for all your stuff.

Gender Equality or a Myth?

" Hey buddy, wearing a pink hoodie. Looking great but it's giving feminine vibes. Stop wearing such girlish colors". Don't you think this is a quite common remark, people use to make fun of the males wearing pink color? I know, you can debate how the hell this is related to gender equality. Now, wait a minute pal, let me make it a little clear for you. Think of a man, wearing a pink hoodie, he is entitled to feminine looks. This whole shit has got no point but still, we do. Similarly, stereotyping girls with an obsession with pink color is shit as well. Don't you think if we can't give equal status to both genders in terms of colors, what about in terms of other social, political, and religious affairs?

I don't think we need an explanation about the status, we give to boys and girls in our society. We usually see there are groups of people, who used to treat females with disrespect and we often spotlight the same but no one dares to notice and talk about the sufferings of men so today I am not going to address the sufferings of females. Instead, I want to address the problems, that men are facing today. You may be surprised to know that even men suffer. Want to know more? Let's go then.

Well, while going through the newspaper, I came across a case, in which the man was set free after 7 years of facing trials for fake rape allegations. This reminds me of another case that happened in 2015, where a girl made an arrest of a man saying he harassed and molested her but later on after 5 years, it was proved that the man was innocent. Google gave me information about thousands of such cases where the male who hadn't done anything but still faced trials and is ill-treated in society as well. We all know, how society treats a man when he is charged with titles like a rapist, molester, etc. though he did nothing. Don't you think this also needed to be highlighted? There are special laws and rights for women. A woman is provided some special rights and status, which is a good thing, no doubt, but what about those women, who use their special powers in the wrong way. Whenever a woman complains about a man, the man is always treated like a culprit or some criminal without being proven guilty. Society entitles the man with numerous abusive terms.

On one side we want to give equal status to both genders but on the other hand, we always consider women's problems seriously and don't give a shit about men's problems. Which kind of equality is this?

I can't blame the system here because we all are aware of the treatments given to women since old times. This made us a little biased towards women and as a result, we always care more about women and hence the rest. But I also want to mention judging and reacting to each situation. We can lose innocent lives as well because of shitty judgment. 

Any man charged with these titles can't survive in society because of shame and the fear of judgment. Numerous innocents committed suicide because of fake allegations. Laws are made for the safety of people but what, when someone uses these laws for fake allegations and false claims?

 Talking about the change.

I know, we are developing, growing, and becoming more aware with time but our perspectives are very easily influenced and manipulated. We need to form perspectives on the basis of complete databases and information. Without complete information and facts, making anyone guilty can sometimes cost the life of someone.

Peace ☮️

2020 in a Nutshell || Special mention to COVID.

The year 2020 was started with a boom and how it shook the whole world, we all are nicely familiar of it. Started with the pandemic, COVID, and several other natural disasters had taken place. In addition to it, many protests and movements amid covid lockdown, It seems the year 2020 wasn't that great enough. A number of lives were lost, people lost their jobs, families, suffered mental and other health problems, etc.

 It seems that 2020 was full of cruelties and was having some big revenge in mind with respect to human civilization. But we can't keep on playing the blame game always, hence, we all need to move on. As this year is going to end soon, let's rewind the whole year in a nutshell. 

In the first quarter, we all went into the state of quarantine and faced lockdown, that continued for around 8-9 months. No one was allowed to leave their houses, no-one was allowed to travel. Every public transport was shut down. All these actions were taken to stop the widespread of Covid. And we were successful in it as well. This shows, at least people realize their role and understood the whole perspective of lockdown. I know, not all were supporting it, there were people, who weren't even following the covid regulations. Leave them. There is always a bad boy in the class. 

HOW SOCIETY ACTED?

Our medical facilities, workers, defense forces, paramilitary forces, teachers, instead each and every one of us played a fantastic job at our place. A round of applause for all of us. 

I would like to give a special mention to the corona warriors here. Hundreds of doctors, nurses, and other healthcare staff members had devoted their best in order to save lives and protect us from this pandemic. They all worked days and nights without even caring for their health. Some of them lost their lives as well because of this pandemic. Much respect to them!

I know the way we got this lockdown isn't much praiseworthy i.e I can't praise the Covid here, but I also can't deny the fact that because of lockdown, we all got a break from our daily life schedules, we all were able to spend our time with our families, some of us started working for our passion, students got extra time for their exams preparations as well. Hence this lockdown was a good time to improve our performance as well.

 

INFLUENCE OVER NATURE.

Because of lockdown and decreased human activities, we were able to witness the healing process of nature, we had seen the survival of the wildlife, decrease in the pollution level, etc. We all are well aware of the fact that whenever nature suffers, humankind needs to suffer along with it. Humans were treating nature like a disguise and we humans were continuously deteriorating the environment. We kept on polluting the environment, degrading the quality of our natural resources, cutting trees at such bulk, and numerous other things that overall affect us in a destructive way. In the terms of development, we are continuously hitting nature in a negative way. Maybe this whole pandemic was a result of it. As our responsibility towards nature, we should avoid using products that harm the environment, we should plant more and more trees, and also stop being cruel towards animals. Maybe nature wanted to make us realize our mistakes and our faults, we all are doing for decades, knowingly or unknowingly.

MASKS AND SANITIZERS;

The two utmost important items that were stuck with us for the whole year like our important body parts were the masks and the sanitizers. I personally was quite irritated with the regular usage of the masks but because of the awareness of the spread of Covid and to abide the covid regulations, I wholeheartedly accepted the mask as a part of my body. Not only me but everyone among us (considering the majority) understood the situation and only because of our combined efforts, we were able to control the damage

PERSONAL EXPERIENCE;

The thing I personally experienced in this lockdown is the way I utilized and managed my time. This whole year of 2020 taught me a number of things, helped me to increase my knowledge, allowed me to work on my passion and my hobbies, helped me to boost my confidence level, and above all, raised my self-esteem. I worked for myself during this lockdown. I finally started working for my body and hence started doing meditation and other physical activities in order to improve my body functioning, increase my focus, and many other things. I managed my time to spend it with my family and my loved ones. All these activities that I did during lockdown made me realize that everyone has talent hidden inside. The matter was the discovery of talent.

WRAPPING THE NUTSHELL;

This lockdown was a curse because of the way and the reasons it occurred but the way the whole human community utilized the lockdown literally highlighted the efficiency and the caliber of all of us. 

Combining everything, 2020 was a blessing as well as a curse. We suffered but we fought bravely. This year proved that if humanity is the participant then the winner is already decided because no virus can beat mankind. 

In the end, after all these sufferings, may God blesses us all with a new beginning, a new year with new wishes and new hopes.