Victory and Defeat - Part of life.

 Suppose you take part in some competition. What's the very first thing that comes to your mind? I'm assured that the thing would definitely be the prize or the winner or the view after you win the competition. You just can't deny this fact to act smart that you don't care about winning or some other shit because we all know the human mentality and the way we act in any situation. So, we both know, the only thing that hits our mind is the winning situation.

Now, it's not your fault that you focus on the victory only. You work to taste the victory. You are raised the way like life is a race and you have to win the race at any cost. No matter, what cost you have to pay for the victory but you have to be a winner always. On one side, we can't consider this whole mentality as foolishness but we also can't deny that always getting the first rank in the race doesn't mean you are the winner especially when it's about life. Life is not something that demands and favors the winners only. You can be a loser and still enjoy life better than the winner. And that's the main characteristic i.e your perception of accepting reality. You have to realize that happiness is not something that only relies on your victories but it can be achieved even after a defeat as well.

The important lesson that we can learn here is to accept victory as well as defeat peacefully without any kind of regret. If you are a winner that doesn't mean you gonna win always. This is the law of nature that you get everything equally. If you are facing defeat always that doesn't mean you'll face defeat in the future as well and vice versa. So, try to consider both the victory as well as the defeat as a part of the journey. 

I very well understand the emotions and the way one feels when he hits the defeat and the failure. Defeat usually shook the person fully or partially and ultimately leaves a scar mark. This scar mark now can act either as a supporter and reminder of the defeat, making you more serious and help you hustle more for the future, or this scar mark can produce a wave of rage and anger as well. Both choices are in your own hand and you can choose wisely.

LEARNINGS FROM CHILDHOOD;

Now, you can't deny the fact that you are told by your parents, elders, etc since your childhood that you have to win only. Nobody ever told you that defeat is also a part of life. Noone helps you realizing how defeat plays a crucial role in understanding the point of failure, the true meaning of success, the lessons to learn from defeat, etc. As a result, your mind never focussed on the defeat and has no idea how failure tastes like. Hence, when you hit failure for the first time, you get broken. It becomes difficult for you to handle failures and you perceive your defeat as pain and sorrow. 

WINNINGS AND FEARS;

If someone is getting everything he wanted in his first go, then he had no experience of loss and failures, but this is life, my friend. At some point in life, you will be hitting failure and that would be the time you will realize the whole perspective of failure. 

A series of winning, one way or the other affects your mentality and you start playing a safe game. You start getting afraid of trying something new and risky, which ultimately stops your growth in life. In short, your fears and pessimism start increasing proportionately as your winnings increase.

SHORT TIME PLEASURE;

People don't understand that victory and defeat, both are part of life. You can feel pleasure after victory, which is good but this pleasure is for short time. Noone will be remembering your victory even after the event. You have to work for long term satisfaction and for long term satisfaction, you need to make a balance between winning and losing. You have to start taking your defeats in the same way you treat your victory and see the magic of life.

Conclusion:

Life is A beautiful experience, a wonderful journey, and an awesome event. God has blessed man with this amazing phase to enjoy, hustle, learn, help, and live peacefully. You need to accept that if life is cruel at some phase, then it is compassionate at another equally. So you have to learn how to take it in a progressive and constructive way without being demotivated and hopeless. Both win and lose are important for the development of humans, so start accepting both as a part of your life.

Keep Growing!